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Bullying and body image

I’ve always had this idea in my head that when I see ex-acquaintances who used to hurt me in my life that I want to be perfect to prove them wrong. To all the girls at school that bullied me and all the boys that laughed at me for being fat I wanted to be tall and gorgeous and skinny and rub it in their face.

I saw this photograph today on Humans of New York of a young girl posing in her underwear and it came with a long list of people who had hurt her in the past. Except the photo she posted isn’t of her conforming, it’s of her just the way she is – with a huge, happy, natural smile.
She made me realise something very, very important today: Becoming tall and gorgeous and skinny wouldn’t prove all these people wrong, it would prove them right. As if being slim is the only way to be and I’d finally accepted that.

self esteem

There are thousands of ways to prove these people wrong with the tools we already have and this girl achieved one. To be confident, to not care what people think, to believe in yourself, to achieve your own goals and follow your own dreams. To live your life in the way that you believe is right, without thinking you have to conform to the beliefs of bullies.

In this fictional school reunion of the future I will no longer spend the run up to it dieting, I will no longer stress over finding the perfect outfit and having the most perfect version of my appearance.. instead I will be the person that I’m proud to have become; I run my own business; I have epic, deep, gorgeous friendships that sustain through the worst of times and the worst versions of myself; I am part of a loving and supportive home; I love without reserve and I am loved back; I have respect and humility and empathy.
All of these things are worth a million of those bullies from back at school. Just because I’m not a size 8 doesn’t make any of these things worth any less. I am enough.

Body Confidence

So screw you bullies! Why would I give up pizza for you? I’m happy with my body image just the way it is and I like pizza way more than I will ever care about what you think.

Loves x xx

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Onetenzeroseven Challenge: One Hundred Yeses

100 Yeses,

When I completed my 100 Happy Days photo challenge I mentioned that I’d quite like to start my own challenge to fill the hole it left in my life!

I’ve been pondering this for a while and as I’m currently reading Yes Man by Danny Wallace (and when I was lucky enough to meet him at a book signing he challenged me himself!) it seemed the natural choice to challenge myself to say yes more. I do admit that I’m a little hermit; I find it easier to lock myself away at home, listening to music, watching awesome shows and working away until bedtime, but it’s not much to write home about when someone asks what you’ve been up to. It doesn’t get me outside of my comfort zone. It’s safe.

If you haven’t read the book, I feel for sure you’ve seen the film and on most days I am Carl before he takes the Yes Man challenge. I’ve gotten better at not avoiding offers to spend the evening out, but as it’s so easy to slip back into old habits I am challenging myself to 100 Yeses.

I thought about a ‘100 days of yes’ challenge, but I felt I was setting myself up to fail. What would happen if there were no invitations one day? How would I motivate myself to create a yes? So instead I’ve settled for yeses on any day, at any time until I reach 100. I could say yes to 3 things in a day, but then none for a week. Of course if I turn something down it will take longer to complete my challenge. I will be documenting my achievements here on my blog, but for up to date progress you can follow along on the hashtag #100Yeses on Twitter and even join in if you feel so inclined! I’d love the motivation of having friends to share the challenge with!

Will you be joining in? What challenges have you set yourself?

Loves x xx

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